Letting Go of Always Being Right

You're in business because you've got a strong point of view. Generally, it serves you well.

But what about those times that you're miserable because you wish things could be different and you push hard against what's happening?

Maybe you're thinking: "My sister should treat me with respect because I'm her boss" or "My customer is a jerk for asking for a refund". How much time do you spend rehashing the events, getting all steamed up again about the same situation? Your blood pressure rises, there's a burn in your gut, your anger feels justified...

But until you can accept the situation as it is, you won't be effective.

Did you hear me?

Until you accept what's currently happening, you won't be able to move forward in a way that's effective.

You'll carry that anger into future situations and it will affect the outcome of your business success.

It's funny, most of us don't realize that believing our current thought is optional. We never question the thought because it feels real. What if it's not? What if we can change our thought and open up new possibilities?

It's not about putting on rose colored glasses or sweeping a problem under the rug. You can't fix a problem at its root without detaching from the story in your head. What are you making it mean that your sister isn't respectful? Why is that a trigger?

Take a look at this cycle: Circumstances create your thoughts. Your thoughts create your emotions. Your emotions create your behavior. Your behavior feeds right back into the circumstance.

So if you're mad at your sister for yelling at you at work yesterday (circumstance), your thoughts might be "She's so disrespectful. She should treat me like any other boss and be calm when she brings up an issue. I've done so much for her. I can't believe she'd be so rude." Your emotions might be anger, disappointment, embarrassment. Your behavior might be to yell right back at her, storm out of your office, gossip with others about what a disrespectful person she is... Then look what happens to the circumstance--you've fed right into a loop of treating her with disrespect. No way are you going to get her to be truly respectful when you're feeding into the anger.

Working with a coach helps you identify the thoughts that aren't serving you or your business and allows you to try on some different thoughts, like you would try on clothes. Which thoughts feel tight and constricting and which feel more open and comfortable? You don't need to attach to every thought like it's fact. 

Curious?

Book a free strategy session and we'll explore this.